I've been thinking about how my closest friendships developed. More than likely, they
began by conversation. Someone approaching the other. Starting a conversation with someone
can be a bit uncomfortable and awkward. It is for me. Other forms of communication like
public speaking come more easily to me. Interpersonal communication, not so much.
At times, I may use some excuse to keep me from communicating with another person.
How many people have I missed getting to know because I have not been courageous enough to approach them? My phrase of the year has certainly got me thinking quite a bit about this topic.
We will find so many tips and advice on how to start conversations. We all need to find
what works for us. We aim for these initial conversations to be natural. We hope to find a little bridge to help us feel more at ease with starting conversations. Sometimes we can sense when someone is curious about us or something keeps nudging us to bring up a subject.
I wrote down a few initial intentions for my ice breaking mission:
notice opportunities on a daily basis.
make a list of people I see on a daily basis whom I have
yet to come to know and commit to starting a conversation
be willing to step out a little even if it's in a small way
These intentions can make a big difference if given the chance. All of us are placed near people and in situations where just taking that first step will simply allow us to enjoy people around us more.
For the month of January, I
am embarking on an experiment on how to be a better steward of time. This got
me thinking about the excessive burdens we place on ourselves as we try to do
too much.So many ideas, techniques, or
mediums are available to us which we want to try.So much inspiration that often leads us to
unnecessary creating.Perhaps we feel we
may miss out on opportunities.We wish
for more time.We try to prioritize and
block our distractions or interruptions.
I needed to find
my way of understanding time management. One that would be more sustainable for me. My spiritual study led me to reflect on the responsibility
we have been entrusted with regarding time.
Imagine how much time we
would save if we freed ourselves from creating or participating in activities
that do not align with our creative gifts/spiritutal gifts. I would prefer to refer individuals to other creatives
who are more equipped to handle other gifts that I don’t possess.I know which creative areas or specific
ministries are not meant for me.Why
would I insist on spending time trying to be something that naturally drains my
energy level?More importantly, focusing
on gifts that draw me away from those that I can authentically claim as my most
valuable gifts.There are other gifts
that have been placed in my care (in your care) to discover and nurture.So it’s not about how much I can juggle, but
more about how I spend my time with what has been entrusted to me (to you).
So let’s assume we have
authentically claimed our gifts.Doesn’t
it feel lighter?I don’t feel that
excessive burden. It frees me up to do or create authentically and
naturally.So now, that unloading has
empowered me to focus.Focus allows for
clarity.Clarity makes room for
effective and efficient time management.
Because I have unloaded what
is not part of who I am, I am able to give the best of who I am.So maybe, after all, being a good steward of
time is about giving the very best of what has been entrusted to each one of us. This is the approach I am giving a try while I gently begin to claim my most valuable gifts. Thank you for reading----Ludid